Ladies, how many times have you felt he shows no empathy to your issues and guys does it sometime feel like that she never seems to understand what you are going through?
Here’s a “Relationship tip”
The next time you want to have a meaningful conversation with your mate go out to dinner, take a walk, go for a drive or do something cultural. Remember this tip, whatever you decide to do turn off your cell phones please. It’s hard to get someone’s undivided attention when they are texting, tweeting, updating facebook or taking calls during what should be quality alone time.
It’s okay if you go to the movies or a concert although they don’t require you to talk much.
Some couples partake in these types of activities because it pacifies the need to spend time together but as soon as it’s over you can fall right back into the same mundane lifestyle. It lacks real intimacy and this is what most couples say they would like to try and regain.
Why not include a dinner or some dessert afterwards? This will give you the opportunity to continue the evening with some light and hopefully fun conversation.
Having dinner together at a nice restaurant can create an atmosphere conducive to gaining intimacy.
There is something special about the coziness of a fireplace and nothing to distract you.
You are free to engage with one another, discussing interests, feelings and desires.
Tell her how beautiful she looks. She put a lot of effort in looking good she deserves to feel that you notice and appreciate her for it.
Ladies tell him how much you like how good his clothes look on him.
Boost his ego every man wants to know his woman is attracted to him physically.
Alert
This is not the time or place to discuss problems with the kids or household bills etc.
This conversation is a fallback mode when couples have become distant and find it hard to break through the norm. Make an effort damn it!
Treat this as a date not a task. Being together should be an enjoyment, a chance to recapture some of that lost romance. Remember fella’s listening is a skill. Women would like to feel they are being heard. As her man you should be interested in what she has to say.
Stay Focused
Guys are known to tune in and out and wait for her to stop talking then add the obligatory nod or “ah- ha- okay”. Focus! Stop drifting off into different thoughts about the score of the game or passively looking around the room. Guys when it’s all said and done her concerns should be yours as well.
Why you ask? Because if she’s in a good place you are in a good place .
Hold that thought
Ladies, men want to feel supported so when your man is opening up about something he feels passionate about try to be supportive and encouraging. Women have the tendency to want to give their opinion rather than doing the latter. He is most likely not asking for your opinion and it’s not that he does not value it (so don’t let that become the focal point and derail the topic). When women take this position it will often backfire and cause him to become quiet. He is left with the feeling that you are being dismissive of his thoughts/feelings.
Talking and spending quality alone time together helps to rejuvenate long standing relationships. Reconnecting mentally is an aide in rediscovering that passion to become greater lovers.
In closing
By remembering the few things discussed here may be key in helping you to achieve those goals of having better communication, better understanding of one another and greater intimacy in your relationship.
Peace of mind can be a wonderful thing for you both.
Written By:Larry D. Miller
Larry D. Miller has over 20yrs in the field of crisis intervention as a call center supervisor for a national crisis line
He is also a contributing writer for the online website Ms. Nix in the Mix:http://t.co/zgeK1XYHWe
Hear his interview for the Anthony and B. Fly Radio Showhttp://t.co/VPQ6BJMpIg
Larry enjoys spending time with his family, writing , playing golf etc.
You can find him online at the facebook page for his book “How to Cheat and not get Busted(https://www.facebook.com/pages/How-to-cheat-and-not-get-busted/115333998547614?ref=hl) his bloghttp://larrydm.blogspot.com or his Twitter page (https://twitter.com/LarryDWWilf)
